Forget resolutions – try personal themes for the New Year!

I have a love hate relationship with New Year’s Resolutions. I enjoy having goals to aim for, but dislike putting pressure on myself, because let’s be honest it’s easy to get carried away with a list of things that you want to change, but it isn’t always possible. I’m someone who finds it hard to […]

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Struggling with motivation

I’m not feeling great. And when I don’t feel great, I want to withdraw, and much of my motivation goes out of the window. Ordinarily I’d give in to feeling crap and so wouldn’t bother writing this post, but I’m trying to improve my resilience. I listen to a lot of podcasts with successful people, […]

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Loneliness at Christmas

I usually really enjoy the Christmas season, but sometimes it can amplify feelings of loneliness. My Mum loves watching those cheesy American Christmas movies where the main character falls in love, finds her happily ever after and is surrounded by friends and family. Which is quite the opposite to our own Christmas experience! I try […]

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When someone tells you who they are – listen

After I split up with my ex, I realised that I had a problem with boundaries. I was only 17 when we got together, some people are quite worldly wise at that age, but I was not. He never treated me with much respect, or even made me feel particularly special. I remember asking him […]

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My journal – get to know me!

Journal prompts are great for when you feel like writing, but you aren’t sure where to start. I thought I’d share mine with you, so you can get to know me a little better. How would you describe yourself to a stranger? The thing that immediately jumps into my head is anxiety. I enjoy sharing […]

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Avoidance has come back to bite me

When I start finding life difficult, I withdraw. It’s like I only exist to myself and I get very stuck in my own head. I’ve been feeling physically unwell, with various things including stomach pain. I called my GP, who went off on a tangent about my anxiety, asking me how I was feeling and […]

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I should have my life sorted by now… or should I?

I can’t always get my head around being a thirty-something. I still feel like a scared 19-year-old kid inside, but I guess I am older and hopefully wiser. Even so, sometimes I feel bad that I don’t have everything ‘together’. There are so many supposed milestones in a person’s life that I haven’t yet reached. […]

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Diary of an anxious mind PT 2

My mind has been very ‘busy’ this week. I try to always be productive but however much I do it never feels like enough. I think it comes from a feeling of guilt. I’m guilty for being unemployed, so I feel like I need to overcompensate to prove I’m not lazy. Added to that, I’m […]

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The Power of Words

I opened my word processing program today with no plan other than the urge to write. I have so many thoughts rattling around my head, but I’ve never been very good at expressing them verbally. Everything seems to get jumbled into a weird word soup. So, I’ll use my keyboard instead. Words have always been […]

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Why you should never neglect yourself in a relationship

Relationships aren’t always easy. Deep down I knew that you should make time for yourself and nurture other relationships, but quite simply, I didn’t. I was with my ex for ten years and managed to sleepwalk through my life. I never thought I was neglecting myself, in fact it rarely occurred to me. I spent […]

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