I need to stop trying to ‘fix’ people

I realised that when people talk to me about their problems, I end up trying to fix them. It comes from a good place, in that I just want to help them not feel sad anymore, but that might not be what they need. Maybe they just need someone to listen and witness how they […]

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The best advice I’ve been given about social anxiety and avoidance

Everything in life involves other people. It’s just how we are as humans – social connections are important. It’s why I think social anxiety is so cruel, by avoiding what you fear, you avoid the ability to live your life. Despite this, I have managed to reach out to others, even if it’s just been […]

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Finding things difficult

I’m sorry if this post isn’t very useful or informative, I do try to put thought into what I write in the hope that it helps someone else, but today I just need to vent. I’m finding this lockdown very difficult. It’s the second major ‘lockdown’ in the UK. I hate to say it, but […]

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Anxiety warriors

I’m all for being a strong woman, but battling anxiety is a concept that I need to let go of. There’s a lot of talk in the mental health community about being a ‘warrior’, which is kind of cool, (I’m picturing myself wearing Vikings-style makeup and waving an axe around,) but sometimes fighting can be […]

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How to stop being your own worst critic

I’ve been thinking a lot about self-image and how I give my more ‘negative’ traits more attention than the positive ones. What is seen as negative will vary from one person to the next, some of us struggle with body image, and others might be critical about aspects of their personality. I know I get […]

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Journaling for anxiety

Does it ever feel like the universe is trying to tell you something? My counsellor told me about the benefits of journaling, and then a Youtuber I follow said how much it helps his mental health, followed by a lot of mentions on Instagram too, so I thought OK universe I’ll start writing! I used […]

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Three things I wish I knew about anxiety when I was younger

Medication isn’t a quick fix or a cure I know that medication can be a controversial subject, and I go back and forth about whether I’d like to give it another try myself. It doesn’t help that my first experience wasn’t great. I was only 17 when I first went to my doctor about my […]

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Do you need to keep searching for a ‘cure’ for anxiety?

I love solving problems. If there’s ever something bothering me health-wise, or if there’s a thing that needs fixing, I’m straight onto google. I research the problem and all its possible solutions so I can formulate a plan. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t always a bad thing, as it means I’m proactive and end […]

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I should have my life sorted by now… or should I?

I can’t always get my head around being a thirty-something. I still feel like a scared 19-year-old kid inside, but I guess I am older and hopefully wiser. Even so, sometimes I feel bad that I don’t have everything ‘together’. There are so many supposed milestones in a person’s life that I haven’t yet reached. […]

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Is your anxiety a fear of fear itself?

Fear is a funny thing. You might experience it often in your day to day life but not understand why certain situations scare you so much. Or you might know perfectly well but find yourself unable to stop it. The people closest to you might not understand either, even if you painstakingly try to explain […]

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